Look around you, how many people do you see living happy, fulfilling, peaceful lives? Not too many. Why is this? Why are people stressed out and having problems in their work, relationships, and financial life?
The simple answer to this question is, their lives are out of balance. The focus is not in the right place. People are not prioritising their lives, they give too much time and energy to one area of their life, whilst neglecting other equally important parts.
Too much of anything, even a good thing is not good for you. Too much work, food, exercising, socialising, or time alone is not good for you. Without balance in life, problems will occur. If you live with moderation, you will feel more balanced.
“Let your moderation be known to all men.” Philippians 4:5, The Bible (KJV).
For example, if you work too much, you become stressed, which can be harmful to your body. Stress can cause heart disease, headaches, back problems, and also mental health problems.
Why do we choose to live out of balance?
It is our lack of awareness that causes us to live out of balance. Our life gets out of balance because we don’t know what we truly want or what a harmonious life could look like. We haven’t taken the time to consider it properly.
Any area of your life that is out of balance will rob you of your joy. Maintaining a life of balance is one of the biggest challenges you’ll face in life today.
Signs That Your Life Is Out Of Balance?
You might feel….
- physically unwell
- a lack of joy or enthusiasm
Work / Life Balance:
Today we are living in an increasingly demanding work culture, and the pressure to perform efficiently and effectively is the norm.
Employers are working hard to find new ways to get the most out of their employees so their companies will thrive and stay on top of the highly competitive market.
Employees are finding it difficult to keep up too, and young college graduates are feeling inadequate in such a fierce market place. Many do not feel good enough, and feelings of unworthiness are commonplace.
“Work allows you to provide for yourself and your family while also serving a purpose in the community, but when it takes over your life, it can negatively affect your health.” (MentalHealthAmerica)
So, What’s The Answer? How Can We Achieve Work-Life Balance?
Studies have shown that employees who have a positive work-life balance do a better job at work, and many corporations have already made adjustments to accommodate the working styles of different individuals in the workplace.
Some of the changes in the workplace are:
- More breaks
- Onsite gyms/pools
- Childcare services
- Company outings
- Team-building exercises
- More holidays
- Providing water/tea/coffee facilities
- Subsidised meals
- Medical care
Stress in the workplace is a big problem nowadays, but some people seem to be able to manage it. Let’s look at the habits of those people who have achieved a good work-life balance?
10 Habits Of People Who Have Achieved Work-Life Balance
They make deliberate choices about what they want in life
They communicate what’s working and what’s not working for them
They allocate time for family and friends
They set their own parameters around success
They know what makes them happy – hobbies, meeting friends etc.
They are single-minded, they know where they are going and are focused
They have developed the ability to organize time effectively
They have goals with time frames
They have developed a strong network of support
They set clear boundaries
If you are struggling to find balance in your life, consider the following…
What does balance mean to you? What does it look like? When are you at your best? What brings you joy? What makes you truly happy and at peace? Find your balance point and do your best to maintain it. Then organize your life in such a way that you feel happy and grounded.
The Benefits Of A Work-Life Balance
- Better health – physical, emotional, mental and spiritual
- More time for hobbies, friends and family
- Less stress and anxiety
- More creativity
- Learn new things
- Better relationships
- Less addictive behaviours
- More energy
- Increased confidence
- Good self-esteem
- You’ll be clear-minded and focused
- You’ll feel more positive and optimistic
3 Key Goals To Keep Your Life in Balance
According to Brian Tracy (Motivational Public Speaker and Self-Development Author), there are 3 key goals to keep your life in balance.
1. Financial – these are your career or work goals. Your WHAT GOALS? By WHAT goals he means, what you want to achieve or accomplish?
2. Personal – this is your family, friends, and health. These are your WHY GOALS? The reason why you are working. You wanted to achieve financial success so you could enjoy your life and relationships.
3. Professional / Personal Development – These are your HOW GOALS? – how you make things happen. These are the skills and behaviours that you learn to make it possible to achieve your goals.
The reason people’s lives get out of balance is that they ‘lose sight of why they wanted to achieve financial success in the first place.’ (Brian Tracy)
They forget that they wanted to be successful, so they could enjoy their lives and relationships.
To have balance in your life, you must ask yourself, what’s important? What relationships are important to me?
Finding Your Balance Point
Each of us has a unique balance point. Some people can work long hours, without feeling compromised, or can function well on little sleep, while others may not be able to do such long hours without feeling exhausted. We are all different.
Either way, you can find your balance point if you pay attention. Observe yourself daily, paying attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
It can be difficult for some people though, especially high achievers as they may deny their limitations and push themselves beyond their balance point regularly, which inevitably leads to stress, illness, frustration, and anger.
Knowing your limitations is crucial to finding balance. Your limits can change depending on your life circumstances and the amount of healing, growth, and development you have achieved. Some people may be dealing with past hurts and traumas that hold them back from fulfilling their goals.
If this is you, you may need to do some healing work to get yourself back on track. Sometimes people have to take time off work or study to just focus on their healing. If you feel this way, it is better to invest in your health and well being now, rather than suffer more later.
What Does Your Balance Point Look Like?
Your inner life and outer life are in harmony. What does this mean? It means what you believe on the inside, at your deepest level will be lived out and seen on the outside in your behaviour.
So, how can you find your balance point?
You find your balance point by getting in touch with your core values. Your core values might be to be a good honest, parent, friend, businessman, nurse, doctor, artist, or writer, etc. Your core value could be to have an excellent character and to follow the ways of God.
Knowing what you value and what’s important to you will dictate how you spend your time and energy.
A crucial factor in finding balance and happiness in life is determining how you should spend your time. If you are not the one deciding how you spend your time, you can be sure others will!
How Should You Invest Your Time And Energy?
First, know who you are
What’s important to you
Know your values and beliefs
What matters to you
Then ask yourself the following questions….
Does this spark joy in me?
Does this increase or decrease my energy?
Is this working for me?
Do I feel overwhelmed?
Do I feel stressed?
Am I being true to myself?
When you do this, you will get clear about what’s working for you and what isn’t. Always listen to what your body is telling you, if something is good for you, it will feel right. If you feel anxious and stressed, maybe there’s a good reason for it, and something’s not right. Trust your intuition.
The secret to happiness is not found in moments of intense emotion, but in a well balanced orderly life where all that’s important to you gets the attention and devotion, you feel it deserves.
Don’t get sucked into the false ideas of what happiness is. We all know deep down that fleeting pleasures leave no lasting joy or peace. Seek out the life that your true self wants.
What can you do today to change things?
- Practice self-discipline, stop wasting time, reduce distractions, get clear on your priorities
- Be consistent with your actions
- Plan your weekly schedule
- Take proper care of yourself
- Set goals for your relationships, health, work, financial, emotional, and spiritual life
- What’s missing in your life? If it’s fun or relaxation, what can you do to have more fun or relaxation? What would spark joy in you?
- Be clear about what you want to achieve and define what balance means to you. When you know what it looks like, you can start to make the necessary changes to bring it about.
- Take time out for thinking.
- What do you like to do?
Listen to your inner wisdom. You always know best. For example, if you feel unhappy, ask yourself, “why am I unhappy and is there anything I can do to change this?” If you feel stressed, do the same. “What is causing me stress at this time? What can I do about it?”
Communicate your needs. If you are feeling dissatisfied, ask yourself the same questions. Get in the habit of listening to your mind, body, and emotions.
If your body is aching or you are getting headaches or other symptoms, it means something is out of alignment, you’re out of balance. You must always be aiming to get back to your centre because it is from this place that all life flows.
Finally, living a balanced life is achievable, but it takes work! The first step to finding balance and happiness in your life is to observe for the signs of stress or dissatisfaction early on, and then start to work on creating more balance and harmony.
Prioritize what’s important to you and then seek to find a way forward. Focusing on your financial, personal, and professional goals will help you to find balance and happiness in your life.
Also, knowing your limitations is key to finding life balance. You might want to achieve great things, and you can, but first, know your limitations. There may be something holding you back, such as a lack of self-belief or confidence. You may be taking on too much in one day. Get to know what works best for you.
A lot of self-development and healing can be done by yourself by getting in the habit of asking yourself questions regularly, such as “how am I feeling today?” “What’s causing me to feel anxious right now?” Questions like this will centre you and bring you back into balance.
If you need any support in organizing your life in a new way so that you can change those unhealthy patterns, please get in contact, and we can work together in making it a reality.