You don’t have to be a CEO of a large company or in a senior position to be the leader of your own life. We are all called to be leaders to a degree.
True leaders love to see everyone become a leader, to gain confidence in their ability, to think and act for themselves.
This way we won’t have people in jobs they hate, complaining and grumbling, for they will be responsible for their actions and decisions.
If you are in a job you hate, it is your responsibility to examine your situation and ask yourself, is this what I need? Am I satisfied?
If you’re complaining all the time, why is this, and what can you do about it?
When you become the leader of your own life, it means you can’t play the blame game. If you’re unhappy, it’s your responsibility to do something about it, not your boss, spouse, parents, teachers, or friends.
The problem is, too many people do not want to take responsibility for themselves, but it’s worth stepping up and learning new ways of carving out the life you want. It just takes a little bit of desire and a whole lot of courage!
Don’t let others decide on the direction of your life. Why not take control today and follow the 20 steps below? What have you got to lose?
20 Steps To Leading Your Own Life
- Take responsibility for yourself – when things go wrong or you feel unhappy, don’t look for someone to blame. Be the leader of your own life and find a new way.
- Speak up for yourself – a lack of confidence or self-belief might hold you back, but if you feel things are not right, don’t be afraid to speak up. Have a voice, your opinion matters.
- Know what you want – it sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised just how many people don’t know what they want. Know what you want or you will end up being a slave to other people’s agendas.
- Have standards – know your values and beliefs and if others are living below your set of standards; it’s your choice to either tolerate it or take a stand.
- Know your unique gift – what are you good at that you cannot deny? We all have special talents or gifts, but what is it that is unique to you? What have you got that will make a difference? Use it and let others see that you have something of value to add.
- Be hungry for improvement – have an unstoppable desire to improve the quality of your life and the life of others. Don’t forget simple virtues that create a growthful environment, such as kindness, gentleness, encouragement, respect, etc.
- Be of good character – never underestimate the importance of good character. How you treat others matters. The quality of your leadership will be based on your character.
- Set goals for your life – this is so important if you want to be the leader of your own life. If you don’t have goals to achieve in life, you might just drift from one thing to another with no real feeling of accomplishment. The other problem with not setting goals is that you might end up just following the crowd and never really discover who you are and what you want in life.
- Lead by example – your actions are the most powerful way of communicating who you are and what you truly believe. There’s a proverb in the bible that says, ‘as water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.’ (Proverbs 27:19) So, let your actions speak of goodness.
- Be fearless – this is something we need to remind ourselves of every single day, because one day I can be so strong and courageous, and the next I’m afraid to step out at all. Make a decision to push through your fears every day. You can do this by speaking bold words of confidence to yourself, such as “I can do it!” “I don’t care what others think of me!”
- Respect others – being a leader of your own life does not mean barging full on ahead to achieve your goals while trampling over anyone who stands in your way. This is not the right way to succeed in life. All successful people of influence, respect, and honour others first. If you don’t care about others and only use people for what you can get from them, they will feel it and avoid you. You know the expression, “use things, not people.”
- Embrace new ideas – always be open to new ideas, be ready to listen for the latest way of doing something. Listen to people when they share their innovative products and ideas. Be ready to say yes to new opportunities, even if you don’t yet have all the skills required. Say yes, and then learn how.
- Question everything – always be like a child, be curious about everything. This means you are interested in life and interested in learning new things.
- Do the next right thing – if you don’t know what to do next, do the next right thing. Sometimes we just don’t feel our best and maybe after some disappointments, you might not feel so motivated. But, just choose to do what’s good and what’s right. The easy way is not always the right way. Integrity takes effort and often sacrifice, but be of good character, people will respect you for this and you will feel so much better too.
- Give people a chance – not everyone you meet is going to be your cup of tea. Or you may not want to work on a project with someone who isn’t what you had in mind, but give it time. Hear them out and think about it. You can always say no later, but everyone deserves one chance, at least!
- Reject negativity actively – make a point of not letting negative people bring you down. Avoid negative people. We can all feel a bit fed up now and again, but if you hang out with people who are always complaining, they will just drag you down with them. Choose your company wisely.
- Surround yourself with mentors and teachers – I love being around inspiring people. I like when they know more than me, so I can grow and become more like them. It’s important to have role models. This can be someone in your family, group of friends, a pastor, priest, teacher, parent, or even someone you follow on the internet or in books.
- Care for people – it’s lovely to have people to care for. Serving others is the greatest way to come out of yourself. It’s amazing how small your problems seem when you are looking after people. It’s rewarding to think of others, but don’t lose balance – care for yourself too. Some people are so selfish, they can only think of themselves, while others only think of others and neglect themselves.
- Always be kind – it sounds like such a simple thing, but why are people not kind? Make a decision to be kind to others, it takes effort. So, let’s make it a daily habit! The world needs more simple acts of kindness.
- Pray and trust God – to live without God is not to live at all. Start to pray every day and just believe that God hears you because He does! God is eager to bless us, it is us who block the blessings.
When you become the leader of your own life and have the confidence and courage to step out of your comfort zone, you will discover a new excitement and passion for life.
You will feel more involved and part of life, instead of just being a spectator.
Coaching is all about questions. We encourage you to keep asking questions and never stop, be just like that little child who keeps saying “what’s this for? why this? why that?”
Think about what you want in life, and how you can make that possible. Are there people or things that are hindering you?
Often we don’t take the lead in our lives because we think we should be doing what others are doing, but if that doesn’t feel right for you, what can you do?
“To Thine Own Self Be True”
It takes courage to be true to yourself and follow your deepest desires.
If you want to be the leader of your own life, but feel a little afraid of stepping out, I’d be happy to work alongside you to get you on the road to a more exciting, autonomous life.